Why We Should All Think Before We Speak

“Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me”

You know that saying? It’s about being a strong person and not letting people get you down. But even if you are the strongest minded person in the world, there are still people that can hurt you.
Words hurt. It’s sad but it’s true. People who don’t think before they speak can hurt you without even realising that they have done it.

All it takes is for someone to make a comment or a joke that you either take the wrong way, or too personally. We’ve all done it, I make jokes with people, and they can laugh it off, but deep down they could be offended by what I said, and I wouldn’t even know it because I was too careless with my words.
I’ve always been very slim, and someone I know recently saw me eating a big meal, and tried to ‘make a joke’ by saying that I will only go and make myself sick afterwards because I am watching my weight.
What they didn’t know was that, although I have never been bulimic, I had suffered with anorexia for years, and am now finally on the right track.

Words hurt

I am trying to put weight on, and look after myself, but I just can’t seem to gain weight.
For someone to make a joke like that, it may seem funny to them and they didn’t mean it horribly, and it wasn’t a personal attack; that’s what it felt like..
I went into a state of depression, and what they said really put me down.
I thought to myself ‘is that what everyone is thinking when they see me eat?’ Do they really think that’s what I do? Because that is so far from the truth..

It is so easy to be careless with words, and I think we all should think before we speak, because we don’t know what’s in someones past or what they have been through. So put yourself in the other persons shoes, and think of how you would feel if that was you.

I like to think I am thick skinned and don’t let other people get to me, but there are of course times when I can be sensitive to certain subjects. So I have said to myself- Right from now on, if someone says anything that upsets me, I am going to rise above it, choose to ignore it and remind that person and myself that their words are of no value to me and I’m not going to waste my time fretting over it 🙂

Us girls need to stick together and support each other, not bring each other down.

  • Be kind always
  • If you appreciate someone tell them
  • If you admire a persons style/hair/outfit, let them know!
  • Reassure people that they’re doing okay
  • Offer sensible advice when others need it

Be careful with your words, once said they can only be forgiven not forgotten

A version of this post was originally posted on my old blog ‘laurensaysitall’

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14 Comments

  1. This is such an important topic to discuss. The impact of our words can be far-reaching and it is so important to speak positively.

    1. Well said Juhita! Thanks for reading xo

  2. This is so true! Thank you for putting this very important topic out there. Unfortunately, people need to be reminded sometimes about how words can hurt others. It takes a brave person to openly talk about times in which someone’s words stung them deeply. Blessings to you and keep advocating for yourself and others!

    1. Thanks Wendi! Yes it’s such a shame that people have to be told to be mindful of others, but all we can do is keep our chins up and offer advice as and when we can xo

  3. panushwari says:

    SO TRUE! I have always been overweight and it hurts when people tell me how I would be perfect if I lost weight, etc., never considering whether I WANT to lose weight or not.

    1. I get so angry when I hear people commenting on a persons weight, especially when they are far from perfect themselves! I got tired of listening to people call me ‘twig’ and ‘stick person’ as well as making hurtful comments about my size, I just learnt to switch off! People really don’t consider your feelings before speaking and its sad.
      Keep doing you though girl! You are fabulous! xo

  4. As someone who was bullied as a child I can say with certainty that words do hurt a lot. It’s effects have followed me into adulthood and impact my ability to form real friendships. If i can save one person that kind of pain I will in a heartbeat!

    1. Hi Erica, I’m with you.. We always remember the negative things in our past more than the positive, and it’s hard to shake bad memories off when entering into adulthood, so it sticks with you until you have come to a point in your life when you can finally rise above it and let go. Good for you for looking out for others though! Faith in humanity at last! xo

  5. Love this post, such an important message and it so true how much words can actually hurt. I love the mantra Kill It With Kindness! X

    1. Thank you Mollie! xo

  6. Yes . I think it’s so true. In that you should not try to judge people. As we don’t know each other’s life stories are. I am loving your blog. X

    1. Thanks so much Tracey! I wish everyone thought the same way as us! Xo

  7. I love this message! It is so important to be mindful of the things we say to others:)

    1. Indeed it is 🙂 xo

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