Ladies, life can be a struggle..
It’s exhausting, complicated and far from perfect at times. You get me, right? It’s common for us women to feel stressed out and frustrated, because we don’t feel we’re going anywhere and are unsure of how to change it.
Trust me I know. Sometimes (actually near enough all the time) my mind is running at 100 miles an hour and I get so overwhelmed with my thoughts alone, I want to just take a nap and forget about it all.
One day I got so fed up of feeling sorry for myself, I heard a little voice appear in my head, telling me to quit complaining and put myself first for once.
Let me help you too.
Ask yourself these 9 questions right now, for a more fulfilling life!
1. Am I truly happy?
Ask yourself if you are genuinely happy with the life you have. Do you just put on a smile and get through each day for the sake of others, or are you really happy? If you put on a front for others, and aren’t really satisfied with the life you have, then what changes can you make to improve things? Whether it’s your job, your home, friends or your relationship. If something is getting you down and making you unhappy then change it! Only you are in control of your life. No one else can change it. (See my 15 secrets to unlock your happiness post here!)
2. Do I look after myself the right way?
It’s important that you look after your mind and body (see post here for some self care tips!) If you’re not looking after yourself then why aren’t you? Whether it’s down to exhaustion, depression or anything else that you’re finding hard to control, put yourself first! See a doctor, take some time off. You are not the best version of you if you do not look after yourself. Take your medication, eat right and take care of yourself!
3. Do I take my own advice?
If a friend or someone close to you is having a hard time and confide in you, you offer them advice right? Well if you find yourself in a similar situation what do you do? Do you close up and not listen to anyone? Take the advice that you would give to others and use it yourself! It’s your words, embrace them!
4. Have I actually tried to achieve my dreams, or have I always hoped everything would fall into place?
What have you always dreamed of? Have you always wanted a certain career, or fancied living by the beach or just something completely different to your life right now? Ask yourself why you haven’t done anything about it. Have you always taken a back seat and hoped that everything would work out in the end with little trying? Make your dreams your reality. Do something about it. Things in life don’t get handed to you, you have to work for them.
5. Do people know my worth?
Do people use you, or take you for granted, or do you feel unappreciated? Let people understand your worth! Don’t do things for people just because they expect you too. Surround yourself with people who boost you and support you, not people who just take you for granted. If you are good at something then don’t let anyone get in your way. Understand what you’re worth and make sure others do too!
6. Can I picture my future?
Working in a dead end job with no goals to reach? Is that how you imagine your future? Surely not.. Think about your future and what you would like to achieve in life and then work towards it. If your future seems completely out of reach, then map out your path to get you there!
7. Do I let other people’s opinions of me define who I am?
If I were to ask you right now to describe yourself in three words, what would you say? Take me for example. I would describe myself as loopy, caring and thoughtful; although I have been called annoying, weird and many other things. People may describe you as loud, clumsy, selfish or a list of other things, but why let them define your character? Just because people have given you a label or described you a certain way, it doesn’t mean that’s who you are. You’re better than that.
8. Do I stand up for myself?
Are you being overloaded with work that isn’t your job, or do people like to joke around by putting you down? Why let them? Your character is who YOU want to be. Don’t let people walk all over you or treat you like shit. Stick up for yourself!
9. Am I creating enough ‘me’ time?
If you’re spending too much time looking after others and leaving yourself with no time to relax, you NEED to make some YOU time. I could go into a LOT of detail, but here is a post where I have written all about making you time!
What are your thoughts?
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