Ways to deal with anxiety, when you have tried every trick in the book.
Written by one anxious lady..
It’s amazing how many people actually deal with anxiety in silence. People don’t often recognise someone who suffers with anxiety as it can be well hidden, and is more of a mental issue than it is physical.
Coming from someone who suffers with constant anxiety; here are some of the symptoms it includes:
- Increased heart rate
- Sweaty Palms
- Lack of concentration
- Inability to maintain eye contact
- The feeling that everything is being sped up
- Feeling vulnerable
- A drop in confidence
- Wanting to go to the toilet
- Feeling trapped
- Lack of air
- Feeling hot
And these are just SOME of the symptoms of anxiety believe it or not!
In my opinion it takes true strength and a HUGE amount of courage to cope with anxiety, as it is an ongoing problem that doesn’t just go away overnight. Anxiety can leave you feeling lost and alone; and like no one understands how you feel, which is why so many people suffer with it in silence.
Let me tell you first of all, that from my experience isolating yourself is the WORST thing that you could possibly do. Whether you want to cancel plans with friends, call in sick to work, or just avoid going out in public at all because your anxiety has decided to kick in; don’t let it control you! Easier said than done right? Oh trust me. I know..
I have no idea how to just not think
If you allow your anxiety to take over your life, you will lose your sense of self purpose and forget who you really are. Instead, challenge it! Push yourself to do something that scares you! This could be anything from phoning someone to getting out there and meeting new people. After you have bitten the bullet, see how you feel after.. Surprisingly I’ve found that nine times out of ten I feel 100% better after and have the confidence and motivation to do it again. Weird right? It makes you wonder what you was so bloody worried about in the first place.
The main thing to remember is that you are not on your own. You could know so many people with anxiety also, and just never even realised it! There are support groups out there to give advice and show you better ways to deal with your anxiety. All you have to do is reach out and ask for that help. Speak to your GP, and see if they can offer you medication for your anxiety. There is a medication out there that will help everybody, you just have to find the right one for you. Medication can help to relieve some of the symptoms, and if you stick with it and take it regularly, it can make such a dramatic difference! What have you got to lose?
Your speed doesn’t matter. Forward is forward
Keep in contact with your friends and family, don’t let your anxiety get in the way of that. Create a planner or remind yourself to talk to a loved one at least once a day; even if it’s just a phone call or a text. It stops you from isolating yourself and will help to relieve your worries a little as they should naturally bring you comfort.
Don’t suffer alone! If you’re having a particularly bad time, and your anxiety is sky high and really getting you down, then tell someone! Let those close to you know how you are feeling and open up a little, as it can help them to understand what you are going through and offer their patience and support. If you feel you don’t have anyone to talk to, then remember that there are always helplines available out there. I also have my Advice Corner, don’t forget!
There are some truly great groups that I have come across which I’m sure you will also find helpful.
There is an anxiety group that you can join for free HERE where you can post how you are feeling, and connect with others in a similar situation and talk to people. Verywell.com provides links to anxiety support groups and offers some really great information.
Also you might like my other post on: Support for girls who are struggling with emotions!
Here are some links to anxiety blogs that you may find useful:
(Let me know if you found any of these blogs useful!)
Here are the best ways I found help deal with anxiety:
1. Write down how you’re feeling. All your worries, emotions and everything that’s swirling around in your head. Write it down! Once it’s all off your chest, crumple up that piece of paper and get rid of it. Allow your mind to go completely blank for a moment.
2. Keep an album on your phone full of images from a happy memory. Imagine going back to that day and how good you felt in that moment. Arrange another day similar to your memories to re-live the fun if do-able.
3. Read a book. This will help block out any distractions and give you something to concentrate and focus on.
4. Play a game! Download a new app to play and you’ll probably be hooked in no time at all; and completely forget how anxious you were.
It’s okay to take a break
5. Sit quietly for a moment and close your eyes. Take a deep breath in and control your breathing by slowing it down.
6. Chew gum. Yeah.. just try it! It’s been said that chewing gum when you’re feeling nervous or anxious actually relaxes you. It tells your mind that if you were in a bad situation then you wouldn’t be chewing and are therefore not in a position where you should panic.
7. Go for a short walk. Even if it’s just down the road and back, you’ll be giving your body something to do and your mind won’t have as much time to get into deep thought.
8. Massage a part of your body. When you’re anxious you find that you naturally tense up, and your muscles stiffen. Massage your hands, your feet.. You probably won’t realise that they ache until you start. Stretch your neck and feel to see if any knots have formed; manipulate the muscles until they’ve loosened up. Try it! See if it works for you.
Worrying means you suffer twice
9. If you have some free time then watch a comedy. A good laugh naturally makes you happier and distracts you from your anxiety.
10. Try to see the bigger picture. How often do you feel anxious about something, and after you’ve pushed yourself to do it, you feel proud of yourself and more confident? That’s because you have forced yourself to do something even though there was a barrier. Another great thing is that you actually enjoyed yourself doing it!
11. Remind yourself of a time when you felt anxious in a similar situation and managed to overcome it. This will remind you that you’ve overcome it before, and there’s no reason that you can’t do it again.
12. Listen to your favourite song. Block out everything else for a moment, and take in the words, the tune. Get lost in yourself for a minute.
Did you find this post useful or do you have any other tips that you would like to share? Let me know! 🙂 Read my ‘Support For Girls Who Are Struggling With Emotions Next!’
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