Previously published on my old blog ‘Lauren Says It All’
Men and women have always been led to believe different things. The way they should act, and things they should do. Even how they should feel.
For example if a man shows an emotion such as sadness, he may be told to ‘man up’ or to ‘grow a pair.’ That man will be made to feel abnormal for feeling that emotion. Over time this will make him unable to open up and express his feelings in the future, in fear that he will get shot down again. If a woman is emotional or upset people make such a fuss. Where is the gender equality? Why do we act so differently
If a man was to fight for custody of his child then he would have to prove that there is something wrong with the mother, and that she is in an unfit state to take care of the child. Men have little parental rights. If a child is unwell at school and has to be sent home, then the mother is the first person that the school will call, not the father.
Why is this?
Each parent could be at work so why is it the mother that has to miss out on pay instead of the father? It is just a natural instinct that the mother is to be called first, due to the emotional side of the female that we have all believed to be the ‘nature’ of females? The way they are? Men care just as much about their children don’t they? So why are they being put last?
That brings me to my next point.
Men have been led to believe that they must bring the highest income into the household, and that they should provide for their family. That’s not equal. Why are women any less able to work and earn money than men? Men can feel emasculated if they don’t earn more money than their partner and can feel like they have failed.
When it comes to sexual activity, if a woman is less sexually expressive than a man, then they are called frigid and uptight. Yet if we were to sleep with someone we are not in a relationship with, then we get called slags or whores. But of course if a man has a one night stand or acts promiscuous then people look up to him like a god. He gets high fived by his friends and men act like he is a great role model and want to be like him. Yet women are seen as disgusting for doing the same. Where is the sense in that?
Women are said to be more sensitive than men. You won’t often see a man shouting at a woman, the way he would a man. Women are said to be more vulnerable. Yet if a woman shouts at a man or is even physically abusive then people would say ‘well the man must have done something horrible or started it’ the man would get the blame for the woman’s actions without people trying to understand the situation first, and he would not be able to defend himself.
Both men and women should feel free to be sensitive. Both men and women should feel free to be strong. It is time that we all perceive gender on a spectrum not as two opposing sets of ideals- Emma Watson
Women are much more self conscious about their body and the way they view themselves than men are. If a woman shows she is uncomfortable in her own skin, then she tends to get more support and is made to feel better about herself. Yet if a man is uncomfortable with his body, he would receive little sympathy and made to feel less macho for being self conscious. The truth is, we are all sensitive in our own ways, and at the moment we are not equal.
It is said that a women can hold a grudge forever, whilst a man can just get over things. But do we know what is really going on, on the inside? Maybe a woman is seen to hold a grudge for longer and be more stubborn because she is dealing with her problems externally; and has no issue with displaying her emotions and true feelings. Whilst a man could act like he is not bothered on the outside and play an act. But on the inside his mind may never rest, and he could be avoiding dealing with the matter in hand; making it worse in the long term.
Now Feminism is what people can get confused with. People confuse the word ‘feminism’ to mean that women are putting men down and trying to be above them. What feminism actually is, is the belief that women should have the same rights and opportunities as men. Not to be treated differently, but for women to be treated with the same respect as you would a man, regardless of your gender.
We are different. There are pros and cons for being a man or a woman but why can’t we be equal?
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