A smile is the best make up a girl can wear – Marilyn Monroe
When I was in my teens I was full of confidence and a really outgoing person. I never used to worry about what others thought of me, or trying to please everybody. I dressed how I wanted, had crazy hairstyles and ridiculous make up most of the time but hey I felt comfortable and I liked it so I didn’t care who looked down their noses at me.
I actually feel that the older I’ve got, the less confident I’ve become and it took me a long time to figure out what the reason for this was.
Being a child you’re still learning about right and wrong and grasping the basics. A lot of your fear and embarrassment doesn’t exist yet, as there is no need for these emotions to be bought to light as you’re still learning.
The older you get, the more you understand these feelings and the harder it can be to manage them. This leads to the fear of being judged and can be where a lot of people’s anxiety stems from.
If you are or have been struggling with your confidence, here’s the tips I use to keep me feeling confident:
- If you are unhappy with your appearance, such as weight issues or bad skin getting you down, make a list of all the things you wish to improve and set yourself goals. If you want to shift a few pounds, set yourself a reasonable time frame and create a plan to help you lose weight. If your skin keeps breaking out, have you really tried to improve it? (See my clear skin routine HERE!) Hate your hair? Book an appointment with a hairdresser and try a fresh look, or just a tidy up.
Only negative people complain about things they have the ability to change but choose not to.
- Your confidence can disappear if you plan to go out socially and don’t feel that you look good. There’s nothing worse than being in a rush to get ready and going out feeling incomplete. Be organised girl! Set yourself plenty of time to get ready so you can spend enough time on everything and leave the house with everything as it should be; (rather than having turned your bedroom upside down, and running out the door with your entire make up bag in hand and shoes to put on, on your way!)
Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.
- It’s natural to worry about that people think of you, that’s just part of life. if you worry about how others see you then boost your confidence instantly by asking yourself one simple question.. ‘Does their opinion on me really matter?’ Worrying about what a complete stranger thinks of you? Why? Do you even have an opinion on them? Hold your head high and remember this; Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, it’s how you choose to act on it that matters. Until something becomes a problem, don’t worry about what the rest of the world is thinking. Focus on YOU. You are your priority; as long as you have confidence in yourself that’s all that matters.
DARLING JUST FUCKING OWN IT!